Hair and Love

Will my wife love me the same after a hair transplant?

On first blush, this could be conceived as a funny question, but I thought hard about it and looked back on my experience with hair restoration and relationships. There is clearly a connection best exemplified by one patient story, which says it all…

A 50 year old successful, powerful bald man (Class 6 pattern with a runway on his head) had two hair transplants, each time accompanied by his caring and loving wife. I got to know them personally and his personality was the type that would stand out in a room with 100 other men. He had a dynamic character with a warm side to his powerful presence. After two transplants with me of around 5,000 grafts, he finished his restoration and appeared happy. A year after I last saw him as a patient, his wife came to my office when she was on a business trip to Los Angeles. She said, “I owe you an apology”. I could not understand the statement and probed her for clarification. “I do not know if you realized that I was against the hair transplant from the onset, but I would never challenge him in public so I kept this a secret between he and I. I loved him without hair as much as I did when I married him with hair years ago. Now that he has his hair back, I realized that the bald man I was married to had changed over the years, but with his hair back he became more like the man I married. I realized that this hair transplant was about him, his vision of himself and not about me at all. I was selfishly looking at the inside man I love, but his pain was created by the outside man he saw in the mirror. The man I married came back with the hair transplant and it made our relationship far better than I could remember in years. I never realized the pain that his balding caused, and that is why I am apologizing to you.”

This story has always stuck in my head, because it reflected the reason men have their hair transplanted in the first place. A woman who loves her man, cares about what is important to him. To conclude with an answer to your question, she will love you more if you love yourself more and are more self-confident. Men who are free to love and who are not burdened with an image of themselves that interferes with who they are, make better lovers than men with an image problem of themselves, no matter how small. Loving these men with their freedom is easier than watching them be less than they can be.