Is a Balding Man Shallow?

I am sorry to say that I am a shallow 28 years old former male model who has believed over the years that my looks were everything. I never had a problem with women until I started to lose my hair. The more the hair came out, the more my dating life and my sex life went downhill. Then after a while, the dandruff started and now, not only am I balding, but I drop snow from my head all over the place, leaving a trail of white flakes everywhere I sit. Is this all connected? Is god making me pay for my pretentious and shallow life of the past? I am suffering, really suffering, so please do not laugh at my email and help me.

You are in the sensitive years when hair loss appears if you are genetically predisposed to it. If the hair loss is early, Propecia usually works nicely, but if you lost much of your frontal hair, then some of the loss may be too late for Propecia and only hair transplants can help. In any event, Propecia works well to prevent your future loss and help restore more recent loss. You may also have some skin disorder causing the flaking (or as you describe it, “snow”) that you are talking about. See a good dermatologist and find out what you have and what else it might be. It could be something simple — or something severe like psoriasis. Get a good doctor to help with a diagnosis and get your hair mapped out for miniaturization.

I can not judge what is in store for you. I do believe that each of us has the power to take command of our lives. You can elect to go bald, spread “snow” everywhere you go and withdraw into some closet, or you can address your hair loss properly, get the dandruff diagnosed and treated, and get your mental state into a place where a woman may find that you are a man of substance. I suspect that you recognized that the old, shallow you now understands that depth of character in women or men is what makes us what we are. I do not mean to lecture you, just to tell you to stop suffering, resolve your hair and scalp problem, and then face who you are by starting to look beyond the mirror, at the man who stares back at you. Hopefully when you were a model, women saw more than a hollow shell of a Ken doll. Become that person!