Reader Gives Encouragement to Young Men with Hair Loss
You get a lot of mails from worried young men, distressed about their hairloss. I feel very sorry for them because I remember how I felt when I was 19 and first realized that I was losing my hair (I’m now 43). However, I’d like to encourage the young guys with my message:
Starting to go bald was one of the best things that ever happened to me. It sounds strange and counter-intuitive, I know, but hear me out. I was a vain, selfish, self-centered young man. I used to spend hours preening in front of the mirror and I thought I was God’s gift to women. When I started to go bald I realized what a shallow and selfish person I actually was. And I also realized that the best route for me was that, if I was going to lose my hair, I would have to make up for it in some other way.
So I decided to change my character, to become a good guy, a nice guy, less selfish, who could make a joke about himself. A guy who always put other people first and who always made an effort to get along with everyone… especially the ladies. And you know what, it worked. In fact I over-compensated. I became really popular and started dating more women than I had ever dreamed of, finally marrying the girl of my dreams. This story is absolutely true, and it’s thanks to the fact that I started to lose my hair at an age when I was still young enough to change my character.
Every cloud has a silver lining… Good luck to you all.
Thanks for sending this. It’s good to send out encouraging messages for those struggling with hair loss.
But I must note — as a hair transplant surgeon, I have no problem with vanity. ;-)
Really encouraging words. Sometimes I think this nightmare call baldness has the purpose of teaching the same lesson that you mentionted. Thanks
Great post!
The most unattractive thing to everybody else is to not like yourself or be insecure about anything including hair. Just accept everything in life and have no expectations. If you have expectations of always keeping hair you’ll be miserable your whole life. Focus on being good to others and making the best life possible for yourself. People will be drawn to you. Women don’t care about what men look like.. Look at Berlusconi, he’s short, bald as a bat and gets 18 year olds.
Berlusconi is ridiculously rich and powerfull ( 2 top stimulants for ambitious 18 y.o. ) An bald no more. Need to work on your examples man !